A client was asking how to focus with the flood of all the things needing to be completed that keep interrupting their attention. What came out of my mouth surprised me. Simply tell them, “Mama’s busy now,” I said. The neutrality and tenderness that rode on the words themselves brought us both into our hearts. The self judgment and pressure we put on ourselves can be balanced with loving and understanding. I am reminded of Phillip Nash the nobel prize winner who had a diagnosis of schiophrenia and had to find a way to deal with pretty significant inner voices. We have similar inner voices that keep asking for our attention and we feel the pressure. With loving this moment’s focus is boundaried and any interruption can be met with a simple “Mama’s busy now.” Loving is the master of focusng.